Over the last few months I have gone from completely burnt out, to a ranging flame that just keeps growing bigger. Fortunately, while my analogy might not be the best, I am not currently doing any destructive, but actually growing my own business, which has been a personal goal of mine ever since I was little. I have never been happy working for other people. It might be because I know I was under paid for the amount of work that I was doing, or because I hate the idea of working hard at building someone else’s dream instead of my own. It took a really special person to actually help me understand and see that it doesn’t matter what anyone else tells me, I CAN do whatever I put my mind to, no matter how crazy it may seem. He basically told me that I was cutting myself short, and I was.
FLASHBACK – Two months ago
At the time, I sincerely was just looking for a new job in my field of study; human resources. Anything to get out of the job I was currently in. But what I learned over the following few weeks was a lot more about myself than I actually planned to.
I went in for an interview at a human resource company, or at least I thought it was an interview, and came with my resume, references, business cards etc. Everything I would normally bring to come across as prepared and professional. As the interview progressed, I found that I had basically defeated myself before I even walked through the door. The man who was interviewing me asked questions such as, “I see you are going back to school for another degree? Why?” And I responded “Well because after all the interviews I have been to, I don’t seem to have enough ‘experience’, so maybe so another degree will help me stand out as an applicant”. He sort of just looked at me like I was crazy, and after hearing my answer I started to think that maybe I was?
All of the rejection I had faced, had taken it’s toll on me. I refused to except a job that paid almost nothing with limited room for growth, while on the other hand, I apparently was not qualified for any of the jobs I truly wanted. After all my hard work of trying to get my dream job for almost 2 years, I was burnt out. Simple as that. What was even the point of spending $20,000+ on my master’s degree, when I wasn’t even applying anything I learned from it?
Anyways, the point of this story. Towards the end of the interview, the interviewer asked me if I had my list of goals with me. I just sort of stared and him and asked him to repeat the question. My list of goals?! He asked me if I had them saved in a document somewhere that I could email him at that moment. Of course I had to tell him “no”. I mean how many people actually have a strategic list of their personal goals just laying around? Well I sure didn’t. So he gave me a homework assignment. Yes, I know, funny right?
He told me that after my interview, he would email me a ‘Goals Worksheet’, and if I completed it and scheduled a time with him, he would find the time to meet with me again. Now this interviewer wasn’t just an ordinary employee in for the company, he was the CEO and a very successful business person that I looked up to. So I thought to myself, I better not miss this opportunity.
After I received the goal setting exercise, I spent my next couple of days really thinking about what my true goals were for the next 1, 3, 5, and 10 years of my life. Where did I see myself living? When did I plan on getting married and having children? How many hours a week did I want to put into my career? What did I expect my annual income to be? Were there places I wanted to visit before I even start a family!?! Lots of thoughts were going through my mind!
One thing I new for sure was that I wanted to have financial freedom, to be able to travel, and be able to give my children and husband the lifestyle they deserved, BUT I did not want to have to sacrifice seeing and raising them to be able to provide them this. I wanted to be able to work from home, or on-the-go in part-time hours, and make the same corporate salary that I knew I could do in the human resource field working 60+ hours a week. Was there such a job?
Yes there was! And I was already involved with the company, growing my business with Rodan + Fields. I’m not sure why I never stopped to think about being a consultant full time. I mean when I actually spent the time to set my goals, I realized that being my own boss, working my own hours, helping others earn the additional income they want or need, providing training calls and helping with professional and personal development, and giving back to causes and organizations that matter, were all important pieces that I WANTED in a career!
So about two and a half weeks later, I called up the CEO that I had previously interviewed with and asked if he had any free time to meet with me again to review my goal planning exercise. As promised, he made the time to meet with me. We reviewed my most important goals and discussed why that were important to me and why I wanted to accomplish them, but more importantly how I was going to do that. I explained to him that because of his goal setting exercise, I had a change in heart, and I was going to give my Rodan + Fields business 150% of my time and energy, because I believed I could do it. I knew it was going to be the positive change in my life that I needed. Did I know that relying on a job that is 100% commission based was risky? Yes. Did I know that it was going to take a lot of hard work and wouldn’t be easy? Yep. But I also knew that this time, nothing was going to stop me from becoming successful if I wanted to be.
To my surprise the CEO agreed with me. He said that I seemed like a completely different person from the girl who was in his office only a few short weeks before that. I knew he was right. I felt different. More confident. More like the old me… before I was completely burnt out by people telling me I couldn’t do what I wanted to. My boyfriend, Matt, has even been incredibly supportive, because he sees how much more happy I am, and how much I love “going” to work. Even if its only around the corner from our bedroom! Best commute ever!!
I wanted to share this story for two reasons:
1. I think that it is important for everyone to make a list of their goals or to complete a true goal exercise. Make sure you really think about where you see yourself in 1, 3, 5 and even 10 years from now. Why do you have those goals? Would you be disappointed if you didn’t accomplish them? What are you doing today that will help you be one step closer tomorrow to achieving them? If you want the same exercise that I completed, feel free to email me.
2. I hope if there are individuals out there like me, you can related to this story, in some shape or form. Please do let other people tear you down. You CAN do whatever you set your mind to, no matter how “crazy” it may seem to other people. It will likely take a lot of hard work and determination, but those are qualities worth having as a professional! I knew that with Rodan + Fields, by working extra hard for about 3-5 years, I could live the life I have always dreamed of, and to me that was worth the hard work, energy and short term sacrifices that I might have to make to get there.
Sooner than later,